I was in two marraiges cumulatively for 28 years of emotionally abusive co-dependency. I was just a kid (17) when I entered the first relationship and went quickly straight to the second. What I am saying is I had no experience of being on y own and no idea who I was - I didn't even know where my interests lay. There I was at 45 with out a clue what direction to take....

Do you have the means to just take off for a week or two away from your present 'world' to a new one? A completely different experience?

Fortunately I did and I discovered a whole new person with some very important interests. This discovery increased my confidence which in turn lead to new aquaintanceships. Getting away was the most important thing I have ever done.

Unable to temprarily 'run away'? I figure it would still be possible to explore. Take a survey art course. Audit a class at a university. Choose a book to read that is a completely different style than what you usually read. Grab some single interest magazines and see what pops out at you. Get a few day passes to your leisure centre. Visit a climbing wall. Rent a canoe. Take in a play at the theatre. In short, try new things. They also are great ways to meet new people and build aquaintanceships.