I guess I would want to know where/what he did. If my T is in town (going to a conference/class, for example) that's different than when she goes out of the country for me? Even if she's vacationing somewhere in another state, that's different than when she's out of the country. She lives in another, adjoining state and I use to "look for her" when we'd be in that state, LOL. Like I'd be able to see her passing in her car.

Is there anything that would make you feel differently about your T's "vacation" and the facts of it? If he had a boring/horrible time would that make you feel better, for example? :-) Think about the possibilities of what your T could have been doing and how that would affect how you feel about his being away. What is different between a day you don't see him during a "normal" week and a day you don't see him when he's away?