Loving yourself can be hard, I know that better than most people I know. But I don't need love in order to respect, the two aren't mutually exclusive.


I don't love my neighbor, boss, colleagues, random stranger, or homeless person I meet on the street. But I treat each one with respect and dignity.


In the same fashion I treat myself with dignity and respect, but loving myself is still a huge work in progress.


You can keep doing what you're doing, but that's clearly not working for you.


So the way I see it, you have two choices, you either accept the abject misery you're resigning yourself too, which for all intents and purposes will ultimately mean you lose the right to complain about it.


(People, here or offline, will start tiring of hearing the same sad story over and over)


Or you go "screw it, I'm worth more than this, I deserve better than this and I WILL GIVE ME better"


Because your happiness, your life choices are YOUR responsibility, nobody else's.


PS. No, I certainly wont tell you to be happy for him. I revel in the fact that my ex's life is as fkd up as he is, he put myself and my daughter through hell and deserves whatever karma dishes out to him.