Hi Again, Big Mama,

Wow! Great info on journaling! Thanks so much for sharing that with us!

Great insights, too!

You mention so many important points. Thank you.

Yes, you are right on. The abuse from my fiancé had triggered feelings and memories from a very traumatic childhood. His threats were so severe, so unimaginable, I would become disoriented and, sometimes, would forget and/or could not process all of what he was saying to me. I would become "paralyzed" with terror, in a sense. If I had not had a past of having been terrorized, I am sure I would have had a different response to his chronic threats. I was also very young then. In time, as I could get more space and distance from him via a change in employers, I then could process more and could break away. I had also started to see a therapist on my own, of which he had no knowledge. When I changed employers and he was no longer my direct supervisor, he could not track me as well anymore. (I was able to edit out details in the above post so it would, hopefully, be less triggering to any reader.)

The "tools" and/or strategies we both have used have been helpful.

Having your own space to continue to heal is such a blessing!

Journaling, time, space and a skilled therapist -- all very helpful!

Journaling, even at the most basic level, saved me.

I am so happy for you, in that you have such a well-trained, talented therapist and you have an exceptional handle on your past and your present day life.

I have a lot of faith that you will do just fine.
This doesn't mean you won't want/need support. We all need support.
It means: You are making sure you are doing the things you need to do in order to keep perspective, in order to cope and in order to continue on your healing path.

Your story inspires me.

Your heart shines. Brightly!

To Our Healing,
WC