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Old Jun 29, 2016, 02:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0 View Post
Loving yourself can be hard, I know that better than most people I know. But I don't need love in order to respect, the two aren't mutually exclusive.


I don't love my neighbor, boss, colleagues, random stranger, or homeless person I meet on the street. But I treat each one with respect and dignity.


In the same fashion I treat myself with dignity and respect, but loving myself is still a huge work in progress.


You can keep doing what you're doing, but that's clearly not working for you.


So the way I see it, you have two choices, you either accept the abject misery you're resigning yourself too, which for all intents and purposes will ultimately mean you lose the right to complain about it.


(People, here or offline, will start tiring of hearing the same sad story over and over)


Or you go "screw it, I'm worth more than this, I deserve better than this and I WILL GIVE ME better"


Because your happiness, your life choices are YOUR responsibility, nobody else's.


PS. No, I certainly wont tell you to be happy for him. I revel in the fact that my ex's life is as fkd up as he is, he put myself and my daughter through hell and deserves whatever karma dishes out to him.


I appreciate all that you are saying and you are right. I frustrate myself going over and over it and hate burdening people, that's why I come on here, but you are right and everybody will tire of it, but it still goes on in my head, so I'm just scared of being left with all these feelings and I can't talk to anyone. I'm my own worst enemy right now, so I'm not fit to give myself advice and get myself out of this.

Everytime he contacts me (and he always contacts me, not the other way around) I end up feeling why her?? What was so wrong with me? and j can't shake that feeling. I've suffered rejection a fair few times and it makes you wonder whether you'll be good enough for anyone.

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