5. That's just dumb. You want to go to jail over this? Being selfish and letting your ego run the show.
4. welcome
3. You have to be kidding. How on earth does cutting off her finger build trust? If I were her, I'd figure you're going to kill me if there's a next time. Again, scaring her into behaving may work in the short term, but I doubt it would last.
2. Tough one, but as a woman, I figure, they'll get caught sooner or later. And who knows what can of worms you could open up (retaliation to you or her or worse, your kids?)
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I guess I'm peaceful because I'm not going through it, but I can see where violence might lead.