My dad has bipolar and I also have it...but my dad does not understand boundaries and does not listen. I needed to replace a fence in my backyard and I received some bids from contractors. Then I get laid off from my job. My dad offers to fix it for the cost of materials. He starts replacing the fence and then starts all these small projects around the yard. He's on SSDI so he doesn't work and has an abundance of time. I ended up paying the labor cost for the fence because he was crying broke. He still hasn't finished it and it's been weeks. A contractor at the same price could have finished it in 2 days. He is getting distracted with all these side projects. Oh, did I tell you that I Lent him $1000? Well, I asked him to not work on these extra side projects because honestly he's driving me crazy. After spending $750 dollars at homedepot on supplies (remember I'm now unemployed), he walks in with a list and says you need to buy all these extra supplies for these projects. I tell him no I don't have the money and we end up in a screaming match in the yard where all the neighbors can hear. I tell him to leave and he won't leave. He yells and then continues to work in the yard. So i leave. I go to my mom's for the night. When I return the next day, he has moved everything around in the yard (stuff sprawled all over the backyard) and he is continuing to work on side projects!(not the fence) He won't acknowledge that I need space and he's driving me "crazy"...oh did i mention in a fit of frustration that I handed him a check for $250 (now a total of $1000 for supplies) to buy remaining supplies so he can finish ALL the other projects he started and would otherwise leave uncompleted (that I didn't ask him to do) so he would get the **** out of my house. Well, he cashed the check and spent it on himself. My mom said it was a like a kid crying in the store for candy and the mom giving in and buying the kid candy. It's only enabling him to continue with this behavior. I think he's becoming hypomanic because he has been sending out a bunch of text messages to me and other family members telling us were *****es and assholes and talking about the past and basically just rambling on. He does that right before he becomes manic. Plus starting all the side projects? Wanting to spend my money like it's no big deal...I feel like he takes advantage of me and it makes me feel like a push over. At this point, I want him out of my life. He's toxic. I've been calling around to find a new psychologist to have someone to talk with on how to handle the situation with my dad. I'm also going to discuss it at my bipolar support group tonight.

If anybody has any similar experience or advice on how to handle the situation (my dad), please feel free to share...