I think that to expect you to automatically love yourself is to be unaware of the significance of being loved in childhood. Children change biologically, physiologically as a result of being loved. Those changes can be and are built on in a functional family.

I agree that a therapist does not love clients. However, s/he might try to foster self-love. In your experience, how helpful (if at all) has therapy been in trying to cultivate self-love through therapeutic discussion and process?