It really bothers me that she would be supportive about retaliating on and hurting these guys. She was the one who egged them on. The fact that she'd throw them under the bus for her jealous husband to hurt is beyond creepy of her. What a B!

Also, she kept all this in a diary! Was she wanting to get caught? Was she hoping you'd sneak a peak and read her diary? She's messed up.

Remove her finger? This isn't a Tarrantino film. Cut the wise-guy crap. That's ridiculous.

It sounds like you really love her and the sex is great. You even said the sex has been super hot since all this went down. I don't know what to tell you except calm down and get counseling to sort all this out.

I hope I wasn't too harsh. Your reactions are all very understandable.