You CAN be the one who ends up happy, but only when you realize happy doesn't include him.


You are the only one standing in the way of your happiness here.


You may not actively pursue him, but you keep the door wide open and so obviously he keeps his foot in the door because its in his best interest to have at least two women fawning over him. A wife who can / would probably finance his lifestyle and put up with his infidelity and you, the ego stroking loyal back up plan / spare wheel.


I'm not saying any of this to be malicious, I hope you know I'm just being brutally direct.


If you really need to know so badly why he chose her and not you, just ask him. If there's so much precious history between you then surely you're able to have honest communication.


Get your closure if you must and then do yourself a hugeass favor and move on.


He's not worth all this torture you are subjecting yourself to.


If your best friend, sister, mother or daughter came to you with this dilemma, what would your advice to her be?