I have straight up asked once if it was a rupture and she did not respond. I don't think she sees them as a thing. It's hard to air something out when the other person does not appear to see the problem.

I had a boss who responded similarly when I would tell her that we weren't communicating well. She would say she didn't see a problem in the way we communicated. I would say I had a problem with it. Then she would proclaim it not a problem because she did not experience one. Meanwhile, our voices would rise and the rest of the office would go silent, people looking for a place to hide. A few times, my boss would blow up and slam the door on me. And still, she would insist there was no communication problem, that the problem was just me. But I digress.

I basically don't like having a rupture not acknowledged.