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Do you ever feel you are only moving sideways not making progress?

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Yes, I reached that point with my first therapist. She was a nice lady and taught me some CBT techniques for dealing with depression, but we reached a point where she was not helping me move forward, despite my own desire to work and progress. I needed something beyond what she could provide. I had reached the limit of her skill set. Knowing that didn't make her any less nice or any less helpful when I first saw her. I had simply outgrown her and needed to move on in order to progress. I have a different therapist now and it was the best thing I have done to help myself in years. Change can be good!

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I know it's me not progressing, not her not therapying (I don't think that's a word). I have put up a wall (she says this is a good thing for me to realize this). I know it's me.

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Are you really sure it's just you? If you have lost the desire to progress, sometimes taking time off from therapy can be helpful. I tried that first with my first therapist, and took a break of 4 months or so, then came back ready to work, but again, she couldn't really help me. But for you, maybe taking a break will help remotivate you and then you will be able to return and make new progress with your T.

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I'm don't do the things I could/should do to help relieve my depression. If I'm not going to try why should I expect others to.

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Maybe a fresh set of eyes on your depression and a new approach would be helpful. My first therapist was CBT and was focused on helping me deal with the symptoms of my depression, rather than really getting at the root of what was causing my depression and helping me surmount that. She did help me feel somewhat better, but for me, symptom management only goes so far. My second therapist was able to and not scared to go to the core with me, and help me deal with my problems. Maybe you need a fresh approach like I did.

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Back to firing my T. I didn't really tell her that she was fired only I just wasn't going to make another appointment.

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Sounds like you left the door open for yourself while you take a little time and decide what it is you want. That's good!

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Do either therapy or therapists wear out?

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We can indeed outgrow a specific therapist and what he/she has to offer.

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Why would you fire someone who is trying to help?


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Ummm, because even though she is trying to help, it isn't helpful to you?

I think calling it "firing my therapist" is a negative way to look at it. It implies she is doing something wrong, and maybe her brand of "help" is not wrong, but just not helpful to you now. How about "moving on to get the help I need"?