My therapist used to be very good at handling ruptures and helping me have a reparative and healing experience, but in the past year he's got worse at it. Now it's like he just wants to heal his hurt in the rupture - so he'll tell me if something I do bothers him and we absolutely have to discuss it, but we've had a huge rupture in February - March which has left me feeling so much worse than when I started therapy many years ago, and yet he seems to avoid discussing how I feel about it (or if we do he somehow ends up blaming me or denying the validity of my feelings and perceptions).