Mom, seek help first try to fix you first then worry about the children later on. That is the approach I have taken. I know your probably really busy but it might be too much to family therapy all of you when you individual needs. Of course, each individual situation is different. Practice forgiveness, because ultimately if you haven't already tried to convicted him using the court police it is a little too late for that. Remember if the children has contact with one that is resistant then you always run the risk of the children still being exposed to some of that parental ways who are too conceited to see what is actually hurtful.