He is 9, let him get away with some of it. I know I felt guilty after the fact time already lost so I let them get a little mean with me, thinking they will blame me later on for staying with an abusive parent....I have my talks and we get angry and I tell him about religion and stuff and I share what his dad was to me at the same time though they are going to do what they want. I really try to manipulate him in that way. I use his Christian school and I kind of scare him with family members that have been in jail and try to make him understand how this will affect his future if he keeps down the same road trying to take it out on me or younger siblings .....Seek therapy I'm inclined to believe after some point they get shut off from the parents and it is like in one ear out of the other. Maybe they will trust someone else's guidance.

I have a lot of guilt for sharing how my mom left inpatient due to her diagnoses, during work she just fainted I didn't see her until three weeks later. I have guilt for sharing that story....After my therapy started I got so sifted by people and myself that the same thing happened and there was role reversal of the parent, my ex-husband (the abusive one) that left us had to return to be their savior....All due to mental illness, I don't know what affect it has had on them...Will they blame me like I probably some where in there blame my mom. Had I had that really in my mind I probably would have tried harder just not to follow down the same cycle as what happened to my mom.. I kinda already notice some of the issues they are dealing with as result of being children of divorce and mom that got psychologically sick and worst due to therapy and all that comes with that. Children don't really understand and want and need what they want . If they are harboring any anger hopefully I can put it into perspective for them as best I can now that being Religious is our only keeping power the power of forgiveness is huge.