He almost sounds like a cousin who quit working at 40 and never went back. I wound up trying to help his wife cope because she loved him the world and didn't want to leave. Like you she believed you work through these things in a marriage. She had no choice but to leave when he exhausted their savings and she lost her job. This was 26 yrs ago. I now know my cousin had a psychotic mental breakdown.

How would you know that? Is there anything he talks about and believes that most of us know aren't real? With my cousin we both loved Star Trek. In that show the ship can move faster than light. In physics there is a theory that faster than light speed space travel is possible. But, say the physicists, we cannot make it happen. It isn't real, it's a theory. My cousin believed it is possible and that it's being done. That should have warned me that he lost touch with reality, but I didn't want to believe it. He also thought God gave him a special mission here and that justified him not going to work. Many people think they have a mission here and some do. But my cousin believed his mission was akin to that of Moses or the Apostle Paul. Moses was a 1 of a kind and even the other apostles didn't have to do exactly what Paul did. That was my 2nd warning.

My cousin's wife told me that the only reason she didn't have a non psychotic breakdown was because I listened to her on the phone each night for 1 to 3 hours. She says I saved her sanity. Maybe, but I couldn't save their marriage nor could I help my cousin.

If this continues do what you must for you and any children you have. I wish I could do more.