Awk, I don't suppose she could be doing that thing they do where the "healing" takes place not in the relationship itself but in the interaction? In other words, she's acting the way a lot of people act when they are at fault. And she thinks you need to learn to deal with that, not the actual rupture?

With the two ruptures, and even with the locker room incident, which I don't consider a rupture, No. 3 always says "we can talk about it as much as you want." Is this not a common approach? Because it seems like a reasonable approach to me.