Mine handled it really well. I am not sure I would call it a rupture but she said she would do something and she didn't. I was annoyed but couldn't tell her for about 3 sessions. I wasn't emailing her because I couldn't if I couldn't tell her I was annoyed. It was like going round in circles so one session I promised myself I would say nothing until those words came out and we spent about 15 minutes in silence. She persuaded me to the desk and we tried to draw but nothing. I finally wrote 'I am annoyed' and we spent the session just working with that. Not much got done but it was important just to get that out there. The next session I managed to write that I was annoyed with her. She asked me if I could help her to understand why and so I wrote that down. She said so gently that it had been brewing for a while now and that she was sorry and she explained why, saying it wasn't an excuse but that I deserved to know why. We spent the entire session with me being silent this time, I just wrote everything because I couldn't talk, I was terrified and shaking, just literally holding myself together. I wrote that I was sorry and she said that I had nothing to be sorry for, it was her who had done wrong. She was patient and apologised one more time at the end. She said I had taught her a very valuable lesson, in a nice way.
I think next time it might be easier to use my voice because of how she responded to me that day.
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