Hi sister, have you talked with your T about this before? Does he want to do couples therapy with you and your husband right now? I think it is very helpful to have individual sessions while you are doing couples work. Some of my early couples sessions were so painful, I needed those individual sessions to help work through the pain. I had couples session every week and individual every other week. One thing that my T does is whenever he works with a couple, he offers each person individual therapy also. I already was my T's client when we began couples therapy, but my husband was not, so my T offered him individual sessions also. My husband did not take advantage of this, but I was prepared if he had said yes. I don't know if your T will do that also. My T and I talked quite a bit about doing couples therapy before we actually began. He warned me multiple times about how hard it might be, how I could feel abandoned by him, etc. Despite these warnings, there were indeed sessions when I felt really abandoned, misunderstood, and ignored. On the flip side, I really enjoyed watching my T in action with another client, and watching how he formed a relationship with my husband. It was awesome to watch him in action!

Not all therapists can provide therapy to both individuals and couples, but it sounds like your T can. My T has training in this (family systems therapy), and I think it really helps if they have that experience. One thing to work out beforehand is what you hope to accomplish in couples therapy. And of course talk with your husband about your joint goals.

Best of luck with this. It can really be so helpful.