Hi, Notsamantha. Welcome to PC. You will find a lot of helpful people here.
As to your mindset about starting a new relationship, you would do yourself a favor to abstain from meeting me at this time. You need to allow time for your healing from the trauma of the last relationship. You will not find your peace in bonding with a new man as long as you are hurting. BTW, been there, done that. It doesn't work. Search for ways to improve yourself, take classes, find a hobby that is fulfilling, seek out friends who are supportive.