we've both said we want to and should work on the relationship but i guess we haven't really taken it further than just trying ourselves. I guess it just comes down to being stuck in an awful routine. It's just easier to keep going rather than change anything. I must admit that i'm 50% of that problem. I'd have to agree it wouldn't be pleasant around a bickering couple but I really don't think our friends now have any idea what's going on. They weren't around when we first got married. I haven't filled them in for those exact reasons!