it would be so easy for me to say leave this guy fast but I know its not that easy and sometimes its even more dangerous for a person in an abusive relationship to just walk /run and dump their abusive person in their life.

first things first only you can decide whether you can and want to stay in this relationship. If you decide you want to stay then maybe a suggestion of planning ways that you feel you can be safe while still in this relationship ie some that I know have put locks on their bathroom door so that either person in the relationship can have privacy any time they need to take a few moments to their self. others I know plan ahead by stashing somewhere in the home a spare disposable cell phone (a cheep cell phone from a department store that you add minutes and air time by purchasing a card then by going into the phone's menu you can type the number of the card into the phone) this way the person in an abusive relationship isnt cut off from others nor help if needed

should you decide to leave this relationship here in my location domestic violence agencies teach dont attempt to leave right away, to plan the leaving in such a way that it doesnt put you and your life in danger... ie stash a set of clothing, spare phone and money with a friend, this way if the person in an abusive relationship must get out quick they dont have to worry about gathering what they need. they can just go. check out local agencies that may help when the time comes. many states participate in a domestic violence underground railroad where they have shelters and will help those in need to get out of the area. when it is time to go, leave at a time when you have plenty of time between when the abuser leaves for work or where ever and their coming back into the home. this gives a victim of domestic violence extra time to escape without needing to worry that the abuser is right on their trail. use cash not credit cards nor back cards that can be traced to your locations through purchases of food, clothing and other necessities. domestic violence classes in my location also teaches once out of the situation no contact with any friends or family due to thats usually the first place abusers go looking for their victims and no telling relatives and friends any plans of where the victim is going due to domestic violence abusers use intimidation and threats to uncover where their victims are.

whether you decide to stay or leave I hope you have ways to keep yourself safe.