Do you see what you've done here? You begin by 'ranting' about your mother. To ranting about T.
I tiny we have to seperate what is ours and what is our mother's. Until we've worked on our stuff. It's almost impossible to seperate. This is what T's do. It's not because They don't live with clients is that they know what is there's.
My mother was toxic, I stepped away from her.