Well, you two guys are young and just starting out in life.
Is this your first love? It could be that you both are still looking for the right person and this relationship may not be it.
Passion is an important part of any relationship. It is one of the most commonly reported complaints that couples give for a reason to end a relationship.
The thing is you have to work at passion. It can't really be faked. What has to happen is for you both to express and think about the qualities that attracted you to each other.
Just because the person is good looking or, has a hot body is not enough. The passion comes from the relization that you are in a relationship with someone that you really enjoy being with. If this feeling fades then what you had was infatuation not passion or love.
You can rekindle passion by doing things for each other.
What do you really know about the person that would make them happy or show surprise? Men are not good at doing those kind of things and we have to think about it.
I have been married for nearly 35 years. I think I know a little about passion and love. You can be in love with a person or love a person and not be passionate about it.
It is the kind of love that families have for each other and friends have for each other but, passion is the burning desire to possess someone. The feeling of "I have to have her/him no matter what it takes". The willingness to crawl through 9 miles of broken glass just to be with them. The endurance to carry the torch over miles of rocky and rough terrain, hills and valleys, heat and cold, fullness and starvation. The perserverance to pay any cost, go any place and make any sacrifice for the one you love.
On your journey to passion remember to not mistake passion for lust. Passion never has perverted motives. Lust is the cause of many bad endings to a relations because it is not earnest. It is erratic and deadly.
Love is for all to give but, passion is toward one person or objective.
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