Quote by Christine Ann Lawson in "Understanding the Borderline Mother" [p 159] -- supposed to be from Linehan's book "Skills Training Manual for Borderline Personality Disorder":

"It is by making these individuals different in principal from ourselves that we can demean them. And perhaps, at times, we demean them
to make them different. Once we see, however, that the principles of behavior influencing normal behavior (including our own) are the same principles influencing borderline behavior, we will more easily empathize and respond compassionately to the difficulties they present us with. [p. 26]"