Definitely a classic case! Although I am beginning to learn what to watch out for I was still unable to see it. I lack the tools necessary to identify my behaviors properly and the coping mechanisms in which to draw myself out of these situations. However, I am now working with a new treatment team and am feeling somewhat hopeful.

PS. I just want to add that I was actually able to apologize and discuss the matter. I feel that was a breakthrough. I do love him and I know that he loves me as well. BPD is very difficult. ...sigh...