I, too, have been told about my eye contact being hostile looking. I don't know what I look like to others but feel very self conscious, too. I don't like having a lot of contact with people because of this and really don't any more. But you are not in a position to just stop having contact with people. It's harder for you. Someone once suggested to me that I not look directly into people's eyes but to the left of right of their eyes a bit and that they wouldn't really know you aren't making eye contact. I hope things will get better for you and realize what a hard time you have with this.