I'm starting to feel I'm the issue here with just not being listened to by friends and family and some (not all) ex boyfriends

For me, if I care about someone I give my time to them and help them and listen to their problems.

I have changed in be last few years since becoming a mother. I give my daughter my undivided attention and want to be there for her 24/7 whenever she needs me. If she upset about a snail she trod on, it's not the worst thing in the world FOR ME but at that time is devestating for her so I'm there for her however she needs me.

Going back to me, if my upset about something and someone else doesn't think it's a big deal they just brush it off and tell me to suck it up.

This really hurts me.

Are my expectations of other just way too high?