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Originally Posted by unaluna
(((Partless))) its heartbreaking. But theyve made their bed. If youre not comfortable with it, you do have the right to make your own. They may join you, they might not. But you dont have to hold yourself back.
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Thank you for your note of sympathy, and also the advice, I appreciate it.
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Originally Posted by Luce
It does sound like she is compartmentalizing things a lot, and it sounds as though it continues to affect you an awful lot.
You are right; focus on yourself. You can't change her, but you can make your life better for you.
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Yes, "compartmentalizing", that's a very good way of putting, and also true, it does affect me very much. I sometimes get inside my own head and forget how to get perspective. My T tells me to make our interactions into a cartoon as a way to get perspective but I find that feels a bit trivializing it. I'm still in search of some sort of mindful way of dealing with this so I don't get pulled into something I can't do anything about, and also so my own past hurt doesn't constantly and gravely affect my presence