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Originally Posted by Gabyunbound
I think that's what it's called?
I easily get down on myself, berate myself, or feel bad whether it's about job performance or the very fact of having so much anxiety, or other things. I know it really hinders me (and I know I should get myself a therapist!), but I was wondering what kinds of things you tell yourself that make you feel better if and when you get like this. I know how I feel is exaggerated sometimes, not 100% 'true' and yet... 
So what helps you? What do you say to yourself, what mantras do you have, etc.? I try "I'm doing the best I can" and find it somewhat to moderately helpful... I'd love more ideas! |
I'm that way too, unfortunately. Self-talk is helpful....trying to catch yourself and challenge some of your thoughts, like: Am I being rational right now? Maybe I'm being too hard on myself. Reminding yourself to "stay in the moment" instead of jumping to conclusions about the future through self-talk can be helpful. Look up Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)...there's a lot handouts/info online, and they can help with reframing negative thoughts to think more positively. It's a challenge and takes lots of practice. Hell, I have a lot of work to do, but self-talk has been shown to be very effective.