I have been with my boyfriend, the love of my life, for a little over 4 months now. We were best friends for years before we started dating, and we have created a lot of wonderful memories together. We can talk for hours on end, spend days at a time with each other and not get bored.

He used to absolutely adore me, constant compliments, making time for me, indulging in those long conversations. He had had a crush on me for a long time before we got together (and I on him), but we were hesitant to start a relationship because there is a big age difference between us. Finally we realized that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks or if our relationship doesn't look typical. We loved each other and wanted to be together.

But lately I have concerns that he doesn't value me as much anymore. I'm concerned he may have fallen out of love with me. The past week, I have been feeling kind of down. I suffer from bipolar disorder that has been very well controlled for the past year (he knows that I have a mental illness, and he has been there for me in the past when things had been hard). When I told him how I was feeling, and how I was having a hard time motivating myself to do my studying (I'm a med student) and housework, he told me that "all couples have expectations, spoken or unspoken, in their relationship about how they will behave". I took this to mean that I was violating some unspoken expectation of his to always work super hard and not let the darkness affect me. I told him the next day that that attitude had hurt me, and he apologized. He explained that he had a hard time dealing with people who self-pity, as they remind him of his brother. He still didn't give me the emotional nurturing that I needed.

The past three nights, he has cut off our nightly conversation (we call each other every night) after just one hour. Last night, he told me that his phone wasn't charging because the charger wasn't plugged into the wall, and that he was down to 3% battery power left, so we would have to end the conversation. This made me so sad. Can he really value me so little that he can't take 10 seconds to plug his phone back in?! And this at a time when I really need to feel loved.

He visited me a week ago, which was like a dream. It was so nice; I hadn't seen him for 8 weeks, and I felt more in love with him than ever. I don't think that he feels the same, however. He was going to schedule another visit in a month, but now he is reconsidering because it is expensive. I told him that he'd just have to cover his plane ticket, that I would get the hotel and all our meals because I want to see him. I'm hurt though, because he recently came across $50,000 that he wasn't expecting to get. I feel that with all that extra money, he would value me enough to spend a little to come and see me, especially when he knows I'm not feeling well. I would do it for him, no question!

I just don't know. He used to treasure me, now I feel unimportant. I know he loves me, but I feel like he takes me for granted. I don't feel special anymore.

Would you be upset if you were me, or do I have unreasonable expectations? And what should I do? I don't want to hurt him in a confrontation. I just want things to go back to how they were before, when he cherished me so dearly, and loved me as intensely as I love him.