Patty, I'm on my third marriage and I don't believe in "falling in love" either anymore. I'm going to be 46 in a couple of weeks and I don't even feel married. It's a shame but my husband and I don't connect at all, on almost any level. We've been together for 11 years now and I wonder why almost daily.

I think some people get lucky in relationships and some don't. I'm one of the ones who didn't. I think it does get harder though as you get older to find someone, people get set in their ways and/or have a lot of baggage. As long as we're happy with our choices, that is what matters.

Mary Alice