(((HUGS))))
Knowing that things are wrong and need to change or end, then getting your feelings minimalized and the refusal to answer or make any clear commitment one way or the other, denial,silence, putting blame on you...It's the worst of the worst.. so hard to move past so hard to heal from. So sorry this is happening to you It's not your fault. You are good. He is driving you to insanity when it is unnecessary and at this point all you want is some word of well...Anything! I think we all at least deserve closure if nothing else. And it's so unfair when denied it.
What this says to me is that you are an amazing honest, loving, REAL person, who is kind and decent and brave enough to identify and own up to your own shortcomings. You value these characteristics about yourself and in others. Am I right? Or am I just projecting? Idk. But myself, I am very accepting of ppl for all that they are good and bad... and the kind of behavior you describe from him is one of very very few thing that no matter how I try to look at it...I can not understand it on any level. And I value myself on having exceptionally developed reasoning skills both abstract and logical. (Not trying to toot my own horn here, but I am proud...mostly because it is the only thing I still feel confident in my brain of being able to assess acurately and trust it is some sort of concrete gripe on the way thing work) is if that makes sense...but if you are like me in anyway stayed then what he is the worst thing imaginable to me.....and somehow I seem to always end up with at least one person in my life at all times that seems to either prey on this maliciously or just is that opposite kinda person and does it out of default. Sorry been a long day and lots of bull stampeding thru my head right now....having trouble being coherent and separating it all. Hope you find peace of mind