When I was married, I found myself in a situation similar to yours. Finally, we sat down and divvied up chores with things being mostly equal and suiting for each other. For example, he hated cleaning bathrooms so that went on my list and he did vacuuming.

We tacked the list on the refrigerator and we'd cross off an item on our side of the list after we finished it. This was a weekly list. He always had a flimsy excuse at the end of the week. I wasn't his mother and didn't like "supervising" whether he did his chores.

He never completed his chores even once. We had a baby at the time and most of the baby's care went to me and we were both working. This was very unfair and frustrating.

Obviously, I was very discouraged and exhausted. When I found myself getting resentful, we talked and he admitted he hated cleaning, period. We came up with the money out of our budget for a weekly cleaning service to do the major chores. He started helping more with our baby and I did the daily household maintenance like dishes.