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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
It could be that he realized he was getting close to you, maybe loosening his boundaries too much, then was like, "Uh-oh, better pull back," and tightened his boundaries, but went a bit too far in the tightening. I've had that happen on a smaller scale (no yelling--I couldn't deal with that!) with both my T and marriage counselor. I called my T on it a few months ago, and she actually admitted (which is surprising for her) that she was feeling too close and thought she may have been losing her objectivity and wasn't helping me as much. So she was trying to step back. I feel like she's pulled way back since then, which kinda sucks. MC essentially admitted it (that he'd offered me more than he should have and made a mistake in doing that) the one time a year ago when we had a rupture. But we've gotten closer again (with a few steps back and forward in between).
I assume you've tried talking to him about it? I know you're pretty attached to this T, but might want to consider someone else. Or at least taking a break and trying someone else for a bit.
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Yeah I tried talking about it. He says it's all me, I'm changing, I'm projecting this on him. When I say well what about x y and z all showing you changed, he gets defensive. He even agreed with me that he was mean, but didn't apologize or anything or see that maybe I'm right and he is taking out some anger on me.
I'd love to think he realized he was getting too close but I think he just wanted me less close because it's no longer working for him.