Hi there! I'm sure more people will chime in. I don't have BPD, I have bipolar but I can share my experience with those meds.

I like Lexapro and Wellbutrin, too. Zyprexa is a massive weight gainer. My pdoc won't prescribe it to any patient because it's a massive side effect.

I've taken Zoloft and Abilify before and they helped me. Granted we have different diagnosis but I can share my experience on side effects. Zoloft I took for twenty years! No weight gain or other side effects. Slight drowsiness initially that went away. A small number of people become suicidal on it almost immediately after taking it, but that is not the norm. Just be mindful. Great drug for my bipolar, OCD, and anxiety disorders. I recently switched to Lexapro because Zoloft quit working. I take Wellbutrin too. Like both drugs.

Abilify I took for bipolar mania and occasional psychosis. I felt fatigued in the beginning. That went away. I experienced akathesia which is a bad side effect of constant restlessness. My doctor gave me Cogentin which wiped out the side effect immediately. After initial adjustment, it worked well for me and no weight gain.

I've not taken Remeron but that may help you in case Abilify keeps you up. That happens to some people. Good luck!