What caused me to go back-it felt traumatic to leave. It doesn't matter than I initiated it-it still felt traumatic. I could not cope.

As to what made him see his role? I'm not 100% sure, but to frame it, this is my opinion: I think that the default position for Ts might be that it is you, that these are your patterns. They get in the habit of looking at your schemas, not at their own....in such a way, that sometimes they forget to stop and look at themselves and how they are contributing.

How it was resolved-I sent my T concrete definitions of emotional deprivation, which was my primary complaint. Next session, I explained to him that he is coming off like how it was described in the email. He defaulted to-well this is how you feel in x, y, z, relationships, you told me this, you told me that. I took each relationship one by one, and explained how, no, it is not true. I didn't feel deprived in this relationship, that one, how other people in those groups (coworkers for example) felt the same way. And we went through each example and confirmed that no, this is not how I always feel...

For those who are decent Ts, I think the blindness goes with constantly analyzing all day. I imagine it could get very taxing. trying to shift the focus on/off yourself throughout the appointment hour. For those who have no insight into themselves, that would be quite a different story.

I also think cramming in as many clients as a T can in one day contributes to this. The analytic hour, the first therapy, was purposely 45 minutes to give the T 15 minutes to reflect on the session. I don't know that many do that anymore.

Well, that's my assessment. I know there are quite a few Ts who post here; it would be helpful if they offered an opinion here, too.