Thanks. Thatīs very interesting and also a bit of an explanation. My T isnīt at all a blank slate in general but perhaps she thinks this way when meeting me in the waiting area. My T more or less always asks me how the week has been or something similar when we have sat down to talk. But I think the overall impression is important and to be consistent. Not acting like a stranger when we meet and ends the meeting.
If she in a way "plays games" so can I. I can also act antisocial or odd, avoiding looking at her when me meet or something like that.
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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
My ex-T used to greet me in a similar way. I saw her at her home, she would open her front door to me and she wouldn't say anything or look at me. When we sat down she didn't say anything until I spoke. I asked her why she did this. She told me that it was because she didn't know what feelings I would be coming with. I think she meant that she was being a blank slate and did not want to impose her own mood or feelings onto me. I accepted it at the time. My new T usually says 'how are you' when we sit down and it feels a really caring question in contrast to my ex-T, I never tire of hearing her ask it, as I feel that she genuinely wants to know. I think I feel similar to you that I don't like it when a T doesn't greet you, but I don't think that it necessarily means your T is ignorant or dismissive. You say that she changed her way of saying goodbye after you discussed it, maybe if you discuss the greeting that might also be helpful?
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