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Originally Posted by Mykidsdivorce
Back in 2003, at a restaurant down the street, i was welcome by an elegant, charming and warm lady. Her greetings made me feel a great calm in my heart and after having a sumptuous meal, we exchange numbers and the rest was history.
6months later, we married. it has been a a great loving experience until last year February that Jane chilled my nerves with a shocking news. Dan, I want divorce! I am tired of your nasty and uncaring attitude toward me. I am tired, Dan.
Jane accuse me of not helping her, and having extra.. Jane gave me two kids, Neil and Angelia. I have tried pleading but to no avail. To my greatest surprise, i received summon from a lawyer last month, asking me to appear on a date for judgement. I have told my attorney about it
I am not worried for a divorce case, but our kids. because, i see myself failed seeing these kids going to pass through a painful experience of single parenthood. I don't know if you have pass through this before,
I am looking for urgent help, tips, what to answer my kids. what will be the effect our action on their life in future. I am willing to take your suggestion. i have been withdrawing from them because of this divorce.
What can i do to help my children cope with our divorce. Please, i need someone's help. drop lines to me.
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Continue to be their father, and for god's sakes do not pull away from them. If anything the one thing that will alienate and give the children the most pain is having their father pull away for reasons that are not their fault.
There is no cut and dry way to deal with kids through a divorce but I do know this (having done this myself) kids need both parents whether they remain together or are apart. Kids will not want to take sides for the most part, even if they are angry at one or the other for doing something bad to cause the divorce (usually things like abuse and/or infidelity) they will still in most cases want to have both their parents in their life and acting like mom and dad - only now it will be separately.
kids survive divorce, don't worry. people use the excuse of kids to remain in a broken marriage but I contend that the broken marriage is just as damaging to kids.