I'm still dealing with this incident more a year later, in that I feel like a scapegoat that my in-laws love to judge... it can be painful for me to be around them.

I am okay with the idea that I brought this on myself, and remember the pain as a reminder that staring at women is not a good idea.

For my own part, I tell myself that it was a mistake I made.... and that I'm dealing with it in the best way I know how. I still consider confronting them with the idea that they are using me as a kind of scapegoat in order that they may ignore their own faults. But, it's almost like this is an unspoken judgement that was made using generalities... So, it's hard to confront.

There are other days when I feel like thanking them for confronting me. They did call me to the carpet in a way that made me pay attention to how I view women. And whether they intended to or not, they did help me.