I obsess over my T all the time. He lets me write though. It helps. I was almost nonverbal when I met him so it may be just the fact that he's willing to do anything that helps. I think the obsession thing is part of attachment.

I think what she is telling you is that she wants to be closer by talking instead of being read to. What if you brought an outline of "talking points" instead to help the discussion? Just an idea.