I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum, the pining after someone and feeling all sorts of emotions about the break up and being the individual being pined after. Unfortunately for you, from the perspective of being pined after, your efforts will either go unnoticed or you will continue to confirm her reasoning to want to distance herself. From the perspective of pining after someone, it only hurt me more and there was nothing I could do to convince the other person they should care about me no matter how hard I tried. Put all your efforts into moving forward with your life. It’s not that easy, but once you make it to the other side, there will be much peace. A good friend once told me that pain cannot be avoided, but must flow through us if we are to rid ourselves of it. Every time I cried, wrote, got frustrated, or anything, it was an awful experience, but it brought me one step closer to peace. And you know what? Not only did I survive, but I’m truly in a place of happiness in my life. Use your experiences to build strength, learn lessons, and learn about yourself rather than be resentful towards someone who is just living a life that brings her happiness.