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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
It could be that he realized he was getting close to you, maybe loosening his boundaries too much, then was like, "Uh-oh, better pull back," and tightened his boundaries, but went a bit too far in the tightening. I've had that happen on a smaller scale (no yelling--I couldn't deal with that!) with both my T and marriage counselor. I called my T on it a few months ago, and she actually admitted (which is surprising for her) that she was feeling too close and thought she may have been losing her objectivity and wasn't helping me as much. So she was trying to step back. I feel like she's pulled way back since then, which kinda sucks.
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This happened to me. Very similar but no good ending. He never yelled, but he became very stern and then therapy disintegrated within weeks. In my therapy, it became a counter transference issue of my T. T struggled with it and he wasn't equipped to deal with it, I guess. I was oblivious but knew there was a problem toward the end. Unfortunately, we had a rupture and I couldn't trust him again so I discontinued after a few sessions. This was after he discontinued our therapy and asked me back. He'd really helped me so I went back, but it wasn't the same for me.
It was complicated but the 180 behavior post of yours immediately caught my eye. I felt like I was in trouble or did something bad but had no idea why. He was a Marine so I hypothesized that maybe that had something to do with him becoming militant. It's lol now but it was terrible during that time. Thinking of you. xo