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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
You have kids, right? Wasn't there a point when they were growing up (or a number of points) where you had to step back and let them find their own way? I bet you didn't want them to separate from you, but you did want them to be able to do things on their own. I think that is the position your therapist finds herself in.
I also think the parent - or the therapist - who can let their children/client go when it is time for them to do so really, truly cares about them.
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Thank you. You're right but it's so much harder for me than my T. I don't think she misses my emails. I know she's doing this for me. My kids WANTED to separate from me. I don't want to separate from my T so it's different.
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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick
I agree that someone who really cares about you and wants what is best for you will teach you how to be ok on your own and how to let go. You have an amazing T. I hope you know how lucky you are to have her. I know its hard when you think you are just there job but if that was totally the case she wouldn't be pushing you to not rely on her so much. I think you are more than just a 'job' to her.
How are you doing now? I think you should try recording your sessions so you will know what is said if you forget and you can always listen and reflect on it. It really helped me with those things. Now I have my sessions to listen to when I miss my T.
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Thank you. Yes, I'm very grateful for my T! I used to record sessions years ago when I saw my first T. It's a good idea. I will ask her; I wouldn't do it without her permission. I'm better today because of those few minutes after my session but I think I'm mourning the loss of part of my relationship with T. I will sit on that and tell her next time. I didn't realize I'm grieving until now but that's what it feels like.
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Originally Posted by Bipolar Warrior
That sounds like such a lovely moment, her finding you there and sitting down next to you, and holding your hand when you asked her to. She sounds like a wonderful therapist and I'm glad you have her in your life.
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Thank you. I'm glad my T is in my life too. I have her full attention and compassion in person every week. I'm not losing that, nor am I losing her caring/loving me.