I don't think anyone should blame themselves for finding support in whatever form they can.

I feel more or less like Lolagrace in that my therapy was long-term, very needed at the time, successful, and well-past. It allowed me to grow into the potential that had been perverted and distorted in childhood. The structure of sessions ended @ 18 years ago, but the process of self-reflection continues. My T didn't teach me "skills" for coping with life, but rather established through interaction a process of perception that changed how I related to myself and others. The more I learn about various psychological theories, the more enhanced my reflection has become. It's not that life stops throwing curve balls; it's just that I'm no longer burdened by the consequences of past pain and have gained a different way of thinking. So for me, continued engagement with psychology enhances the reflection that keeps me centered and whole in myself. That in turn allows me to engage more fully and widely within my life. The unburdening freed up energy to put into action in my life so that I wasn't isolated anymore and could have a web of social ties that, when life difficulties happen, can be a source of support. As Lolagrace said, at the time, the support of a T was needed and appropriate; now, it isn't. Support comes in many forms once you are able to participate in it.

So the challenge becomes finding what feeds your sense of agency in the world? It's going to be different for everyone. But how I distinguish whether I could benefit from therapeutic help or rely on social support is by assessing the degree to which I feel that I am shaping my life, vs feeling shaped by life. It's not about distraction from issues, nor just keeping them in check--that would be an indication for me that I needed more therapy. It's about being freed from that struggle.

So what will enhance your being who and how you want to be in your life? Therapy? Spirituality? Adoption of a goal? A passion? I'm not sure the exact form makes much difference as long as it is genuine to your self and positive. Be "for" something rather than "against" something. Being "for" I think inspires an expanding of self, while being "against" encourages a shrinking of self.