I am sorry that you are currently going through this, and thank you for sharing. If you and your current husband are civil, this may work; however, I would still consider seeking out a lawyer. Divorces can get nasty very quickly, and it is always good to protect yourself. It is also more complicated because the two of you have children. If you guys can do in a civil, productive manner then that would be ideal. If the two of you can agree on things, including the house and how to split time with your children, then you can leave the lawyers out of this.