I have had similar experiences in dating and with my t. I am a femme lesbian and my t doesn't get the dating scene nor does she even try. Most of the time I leave sessions feeling like I am not trying but I do try. I have seen about five different ts and only my first one got how hard it is to date. Four out of five of them said they treat gay relationships the same as straight ones. They are not the same, the same as no two hetrosexual relationships are the same. Every relationship is different regardless of its orientation.
You convey your hope here and perhaps in therapy but your t is not hearing it. I chose not to bring my relationship issues to my various t s as they didn't understand nor try to understand. It's hard to find a t experienced in this area but perhaps there are some ts who have experience with LGBT in your area?

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