Thanks so much for the number. See, the whole situation came about because my uncle had admitted thoughts about young boys to his therapist. My whole family knows now. My cousin is seeking help for that and for cutting himself. As for my two cousins though, my aunt doesnt want to tell them about this, but i think they already know and are part of it. Ive looked into it and some signs of having been sexually abused are like drops in grades and wetting the bed. Both of which both the girls do, and they do have a signifigant attachment to their father. As of now they are not allowed to see their father but 1 a month under supervision, but no one seems to suspect that they could be involved it it also. In researching though i found that it is not likely that a petophile abuses only one child, which is another reason why i have my suspicions. I have recollections of my cousin asking me to do things to him when we were younger like 4 or 5, and i told my parents and of course never did them but thats why i think that all this occured at a much eariler age. I just want the best for my cousins but im not sure how to make everyone realize that this could be a lot more complicated than they think. Or i suppose it could just be me jumping to conclusions. Thanks for the advice though ... if you have anymore insight id appreciate it.