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Originally Posted by st0psign
So finally had this date, we had went to a nice sushi place and had dinner, talked. as much as I didn't want it to come up somehow the fact that I'm bipolar weaseled its way into the conversation. I asked if she knew I had it, she said she did (we've known each other since about age 10 we're 26 now). when dinner was over I asked if she wanted to do something again and she said yes.
Now later in the evening I ventured to the bar and continued to talk to her via text, and kinda spilled about the bipolar, I think I asked her why she agreed to a date and then another with me if she knew I had it. the response I got was that she's not looking for anything serious right now.
and just like that I went from king of the world to back down to the bottom of the barrel. burned myself again (leg this time at least no one can see it), and put my fist into my house's aluminum siding and my computer desk a good number of times.
Question to all the ladies who read this...
Why would you accept a date with someone if you're not looking to date anyone?
I just don't get it I'm so confused.
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I understand and empathize with how hard it is when you open up about having Bipolar Disorder, and it leaves you feeling very vulnerable...especially in the dating world. I agree with others here that if she was not interested at all, there would not be a second date. Some space for both of you would be good....not just for her, but for you to be able to avoid investing too much into the person too soon and for you to still be able to focus on your own personal wellness and not lose who you are in the process.
It sounds like she wants to keep things casual before making a commitment, which is not a poor reflection on you in any way. It's likely where she's at in her life right now. There's a lot of advantages to taking things slow and seeing what develops. However, if time goes by and you feel you both aren't on the same page, then that could be a sign it's time to move on to someone who is ready to invest in something more serious, if that's what you are looking for. Take it easy, have fun, and just be yourself!