Are you seeing my ex-T???? You sound JUST like me and your T. sounds just like my former one!

I had all those feelings and my T. said it was transference - I was expecting her to act like my mom. I now see little things that made me feel that way. one was what I was doing didn't seem to be "right". I also wanted to read what I had written and my T. would tell me I need to just talk. Over time I have realized I felt I was doing therapy "wrong".

I also felt like a little kid on a couch. It was awful and made between sessions so painful. My new T. said ex-T. and I had a traumatic bond. you can google about it. I think she was pushing me to open up but it was doing the opposite. My current T. welcomes anything I write and says that I get so much more out that way. She's very accepting of the way I need to do it instead of forming to her way.

Please please keep in mind that this is YOUR therapy and there is no WRONG way to do it. It is most beneficial when the T. can figure out a way for you to communicate even if it's not what they are used to. Perhaps you can tell her about this post and then say "I really need to write for awhile before I feel comfortable talking". The more you read and get a positive reaction, the easier it will be to talk.